Feng Shui Coaching

Negative core beliefs: we all have them. Just try feeling good about yourself and see what happens.

I’m serious. Tell yourself how wonderful, brilliant, successful and talented you are. You might be familiar with writing affirmations. So, write an affirmation, making it as bold and ‘out-there’ as you can, and write it down. Fill a whole sheet a paper with your affirmation.  For example, “I, Deborah Redfern am a famous writer and a sought-out key note speaker and feng shui teacher.”

What happens is that when you tap into your self worth a little voice in your mind speaks up and says “oh you are not!,” or “who are you kidding, you could never do that” or “who do you think you are?”

Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle would call this the pain-body, the Ego, delighting in making itself feel important by creating drama. These inner objections bring your energy down and even make you feel inauthentic with yourself.

I call these inner objections blurts. They can be very damaging to your self worth because they keep you from completely experiencing your self-worth, unique qualities and gifts.

In order to release yourself from your negative core beliefs you work with them. Do not try to stop them, but allow them to rise to the surface. Each time they do, write them down. (A lot will come to the surface while you fill your page with your affirmation). 

Now you want to look at this list of blurts and see if you can discover where they came from. Whose voice do you hear it in? Is there a memory attached to it? Many times our blurts will come out in a parent’s voice, an older brother or sister, or a teacher’s voice.

With each blurt that comes up, thank it and tell it that it is no longer needed. You can let them go. You can also rewrite each of your blurts as a positive affirmation.

For example, a blurt might be:

“There are thousands of talented writers out there. What makes you think you are so special?”

And I could re-write this blurt as “There is no one else in the world like me and people want to receive the gifts I have been given to share.”

Sometimes just knowing that we all have these blurts, or negative core beliefs takes away a lot of their power. I invite you to use the comment box to share some of your blurts — if you dare!

© Deborah Redfern, 2008. All rights reserved.